The title of this post will bring a variety of thoughts to mind but I will focus on my favorite then explore some others. Respect is my number one expectation because if I get it many others come with it and problems go away as a result. If I don’t get it I move on…
I am sure this question has come up, and does come up since the beginning of time. Maybe when the first cave man exchanged his black bear skin for her white bear skin clothing. Who knows but its not going away because one is born everyday and, the AM I A CROSSDRESSER question comes right…
A couple of days ago while scrolling through Facebook videos I came across one by a detransitioner expressing their regrets. One thing that struck me was when they complained about being steered in a direction that was not right for them in their opinion. They regretted their life altering surgery and the fact that they can’t go back and must live with the way they are now. Another complaint was that they were not given a lot of options other than transitioning. It’s the internet so I really can’t attest to the validity of the video but the concept started me thinking about people being labeled as Transgender and guided to transition. Were any of them actually Transvestite / Crossdressers and not Transgendered? Were they made aware that there is an activity called cross dressing done by Transvestite / Crossdressers that might be a better fit for them?
This post is copied from my other site MICKIFINN.COM because I thought it would be helpful her also. I am encouraging you to read WHISPERS IN THE MIRROR: Understanding Gender Dysphoria and Identity Through Psychology, Science and Lived Experience by Lea Taylor. I must disclose up front that I am acquainted with Lea and have…
So ladies feel free to call yourselves crossdressers again or for you younger folks maybe the first time if you feel the term fits. The important difference between Crossdressing and the other labels is that it is an event of limited duration that repeats depending on the individuals motivation. The term putting the genie back…
WE ALL DO IT! Posted on December 5, 2025by Micki Finn No, I’m not referring to glider pilots but rather a condition the effects most crossdressers when they start going out in public for the first time. Sheer terror is followed by euphoria which leads to the desire to dress all the time or at least more…
There is a lot of aspects to crossdressing that many people don’t always think about. This is especially true if things are going well for you. One aspect is for those of us who initially struggled along with those who are still in that camp. Crossdresser coping strategies are needed to live with our compulsion successfully. Wives and girlfriends on the other hand need to develop a strategy of coping with crossdressers.
None of us can escape the constant news stories of anything and everything Trans oriented. Pretty much all of them involve some kind of demand for change from the general public. It makes no difference if crossdressers agree with any or all of the positions involved. We fall under the transgender umbrella because we basically don’t have our own separate representation. So what about the crossdresser demands from the general public? To my knowledge we don’t have any which is not to be confused with desires. I think crossdressers along with every other person on the planet desire respect but demanding it might be counter productive.
A crossdressers life is full of choices and as time marches on mature crossdresser choices can become more important. I like to think about it in terms of each decade being a chapter in my crossdressing life. The first chapter ages 1 to 10 being pretty much carefree doing little boy stuff until around 6 or 7 when I became fascinated with women’s clothing but had no idea why just like every young crossdresser. For most of us the next ten years ages 11 to 20 were pretty exiting as we learned more about crossdressing along with guilt, lying in addition to sneaking around. The only choices were whether or not to indulge our passion or hold off a little longer before caving in and doing it. The last half of this chapter is where the second choice of telling someone typically presents itself such as a girlfriend or potential wife.
Crossdressers like myself might relate to my crossdresser waterfall metaphor. Thinking back to my crossdressing adventures in San Francisco years ago which started with Duke checking into the hotel. To those not in the know it was probably bizarre because he never left the room. Duke went through the crossdresser waterfall when entering the hotel elevator and emerging later is Micki for the next couple of days. In those days it was 24 hour a day crossdressing with jeans and flats during the day for shopping. Nights were dresses and heels for elegant restaurant dining.
