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I got the idea for this post after thinking about my last adventure. We all know crossdressing does not go away so managing it well pays off. My wife and I made a place for Micki Time in our schedule years ago and it works very well. The harmless crossdresser idea is based on what I do during Micki Time. A couple of days each month I get dressed as the most glamorous woman I can conjure up. I then go for dinner and drinks in a nice restaurant with friends or alone. That’s pretty much it other than possibly attending a show in Las Vegas if I’m there.
Probably the younger you are the less exciting that seems but it is satisfying for me. Just a harmless crossdresser activity that should not bother anyone. It’s actually boring for my wife which is one reason she does not join me. She knows where I am and typically who I am with along with liking me much more when I return home due to my relaxed mood. Letting the genie out of the bottle once a month is a must for me and being able to plan for it makes a big difference. Looking forward to my Micki Time all month long makes me happy. Because of all the planning that goes into my adventure the excitement is more than just the actual Micki Time.
I use the terms harmless crossdresser and harmless transvestite interchangeably because I have no problem with either term. I started as a transvestite using the abbreviation TV because it was less clinical sounding. Once I started going out and finding others I adopted crossdresser again because it was less clinical sounding. Who I am and what I do is the same regardless of the label and I Googled the terms to get the latest information. The first one below for transvestite comes from Miriam Webster and it surprised me a bit because fetish and perversion were once associated with the term. The DSM5 or Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5th edition probably has not changed their definition though. I wonder if any of the doctors are transvestites themselves.
I don’t identify or use the term transgender because it does not fit as you can see from the definitions below.
HARMLESS TRANSVESTITE
You can click on the pictures below to link to the sites and get more detailed information. The key characteristics sections are very informative.
I liked the comparisons on the LGBTI News site because it clearly defines the differences between Transgender, Transsexual, and Transvestite. I pasted a portion of what they talk about below but their site has much more.
What Does Transgender Mean?
Definition: Transgender is an umbrella term for individuals whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.What Does Transgender Mean?
Definition: Transgender is an umbrella term for individuals whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.
- Key Characteristics:
- Gender identity (internal sense of self) does not align with assigned sex at birth.
- Includes a broad spectrum, such as nonbinary and genderqueer individuals.
- Not all transgender individuals choose medical or surgical transition.
- Example: Someone assigned female at birth who identifies as male or nonbinary may describe themselves as transgender.
What Does Transsexual Mean?
Definition: Transsexual refers to individuals who have undergone medical or surgical procedures to align their physical characteristics with their gender identity.
- Key Characteristics:
- May involve hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or gender confirmation surgery.
- Some transsexual individuals identify under the transgender umbrella, while others prefer to use transsexual exclusively.
- The term is less commonly used today and may be considered outdated in some contexts.
- Example: A person assigned male at birth who undergoes HRT and surgery to live as a woman may identify as transsexual.
What Does Transvestite Mean?
Definition: Transvestite refers to individuals who dress in clothing typically associated with a different gender, often for personal expression or entertainment.
- Key Characteristics:
- Not related to gender identity or sexual orientation.
- Transvestites typically identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.
- The term is less commonly used today, with cross-dresser being a more accepted alternative.
- Example: A man who enjoys wearing traditionally feminine attire, such as dresses or makeup, may identify as a transvestite or cross-dresser.
Key Differences Between Transgender, Transsexual, and Transvestite
| Term | Gender Identity | Medical Transition | Expression |
|---|---|---|---|
| Transgender | Yes | Not always | Broad spectrum |
| Transsexual | Yes | Often includes HRT/Surgery | Physical alignment |
| Transvestite | No | No | Clothing-based |
- Key Characteristics:
- Gender identity (internal sense of self) does not align with assigned sex at birth.
- Includes a broad spectrum, such as nonbinary and genderqueer individuals.
- Not all transgender individuals choose medical or surgical transition.
- Example: Someone assigned female at birth who identifies as male or nonbinary may describe themselves as transgender.
HARMLESS CROSSDRESSER
Regardless of your term preference harmless crossdresser or harmless transvestite the key takeaway is the harmless designation. I like to be appreciated for my presentation but not the center of attention so being left alone also works for me. Being a harmless crossdresser hopefully people respect my right to self expression without making a big deal out of seeing a guy in a dress. I think if they know the differences in terms it might help.